Dear Mom and Dad,
This is what happiness looks like. Sorry you were so miserable in your own lives that you couldn’t allow me a chance at my own. I went out and found it anyway. I miss you, and will miss you even more this holiday season since you won’t allow me to come back home unless I have a woman on my arm. Oh by the way, we’ll still be using the family recipe for the stuffing, I’m sure it’ll be a hit with our friends.
Your son, his boyfriend, and our spoiled cat
I got a migraine and threw up because of this
i cant sleep cause of this now
i’m breathing really heavily
"You had from the moment that you held me; because I had never been held like that before."
W.C (via blackbruise)
1. When your friends ask you to hangout, and you don’t feel like it, don’t go. Don’t ever do things halfway or do something that makes you uncomfortable. With everything, give all of yourself, even the pieces you never knew existed.
2. It is okay to not know. Everyone always despises the phrase, “I don’t know” but no one tells you that it is okay to not know. The becoming is more important than the being, anyways.
3. If someone ever makes you feel less, in any way, you have every right to walk away. You have every right to cut out toxic people in your life. To close the door on people who make you feel bad about who you are or what you stand for. Friends don’t tear down, they build up.
4. Loss is always going to happen. Just like paint will always chip and rain will always fall, loss will always be part of life. No matter how much I don’t like it, or avoid it, it is going to walk my way at several times in my life. Learn to embrace it and learn to get closure.
5. Give yourself a chance. Stop saying, “I don’t think I can” or “But what if I am not able to?” and give yourself a chance. This may be cliche, but try to believe in yourself. When you get older, your knees won’t work the same and you won’t have the best memory, and you are going to wish you’d given yourself a chance years sooner.
6. Fall in love. Don’t be guarded before you fall in love. You could fall in love three times and still not find the right one, but none of it is going to make “the one” matter less. Don’t fall into that idea that your first love has to be your best love. Fall in love as many times as it naturally happens.
7. Firsts are going to be messy. First loves, first kisses, first dates, first failed tests, first college class, first time you drive a car, first time you ride a plane - first times were made to be imperfect. Just because it’s messy and all over the place, doesn’t mean it can’t be good or worthwhile.
8. You want another scoop of ice-cream? Go get it. Get three more scoops of ice-cream if that is what you want. “Fat” is not the opposite of beautiful and it is not the opposite of happy. Don’t let anyone tell you that your body type isn’t beautiful. Beauty is a social construct, create your own, become your own.
9. Let yourself be alone. Loneliness is not a bad thing. It is healthy and normal. Everyone needs to spend a good portion of their life alone. We learn who we are when we are alone; life is less crowded and more clear when we are alone.
10. If you aren’t happy where you are, change it. Quit your job, move, become a vegetarian, get a new hobby, pick up an old hobby, whatever you do - make sure it benefits you. Life is too short to not be alive, to not be passionate, and overflowing."
Long hair in modern society is often seen as the most feminine and most attractive style of hair for women; with women with short hair being labelled as ‘butch’, ‘manly’ and even ‘dykes’ (remember any women who chooses to love the same sex instead of a man is immediately unattractive and could never fit into the standard idea of beauty). However, long hair in other places on a womens body is not so smiled at; pubic hair, leg hair and armpit hair are all also condemmed by society as butch, manly and for ‘dykes’. It’s incredibly interesting that society (and male gaze) often seems to demand long hair; but only in the places it wishes it to be. Both pieces show models wearing ‘armpit extensions’ and ‘pubic hair extensions’, commenting on what women would look like if the ideologies behind body hair were reversed; if short head hair was the most feminine and attractive, shaved would be the best, and women spent time and money growing out their armpit hair, even buying extensions if they couldn’t grow it themselves, spending ridiculous amounts on ‘real human armpit hair’ to fit societies standards further, curly and straightening and conditioning the hairs to get the style just right, just like how ‘that actress’ from ‘that film’ managers to get my armpit hair so sleekly smooth with a delicate curl. The automatic strangeness (even myself and the model laughed throughout the shoot) of seeing a girl in jeans and topless (which is often a look sported on models in stores such as american apparel, with their perfect shaving and long blonde hair) but with her hair kept short and her armpits showing her reaching below her bum checks is enough to resonate the point I’m trying to make.
I did this a while back but never posted it, currently updated my art blog with all my stuff!! +these pants are very cute in person